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Episode 144 – Pep Talk

When life after miscarriage, stillbirth or babyloss knocks you down….you get back up! Today’s episode will help you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep going. 

We all need a little pep talk once in a while.

WHat ever is heavy on your mind will feel lighter after you listen. 

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I just plugged in my microphone to record when I hear the ice cream truck going around outside and. All my kids are busy and so they’re gonna be pretty disappointed they missed it. But I’m wondering, how is your summer going and what is your favorite treat from the ice cream truck? I gotta say it really depends on the day, but lately if, uh, we go to the ice cream truck, it’s gonna be the rocket, the red, white, and blue popsicle.

Uh, so good. But. Yeah, I, I have a lot of different types of ice cream that I like, so I will pretty much be happy with anything. How is your summer going? How are you handling the schedule? The crazy weather. I don’t know where you live here. It’s been like super cold and now it’s super hot and we’re worried about kind of wildfire season and all of that.

I just wanna check in. It’s been a busy summer. You might have noticed I haven’t had an episode every week. That’s cause life. That’s cause kids are home all the time. And if you’re new here, I have six living kids, five of them are still at home. Uh, one just graduated high school and all the way down to a five year old, and we are doing like swimming lessons and playing with friends and, and all of the things that you do in the summer.

But I’m so glad you’re here. I am not going anywhere. It’s just been a bit of a busy season for me and probably for you too. So I wanna jump into what we’re talking about today, but really quickly tell you if your summer has been as busy as mine. I have two options for you if you need some coaching, if you’re struggling in your grief or pregnancy after loss.

I have peace in my pocket. It is Voxer Coaching. Voxer is a free app. It’s like a walkie-talkie voice texting app where you just can talk to the other person and they message you back and it’s really, really cool. So peace in my pocket is for those. People who just don’t feel like they can sit down weekly and talk to a coach, but they just need support.

It’s so good. I love peace in my pocket so much. Go on the show notes, find the link for that one, and find everything out about it. The other option is school is starting soon. My youngest is going to kindergarten and. He is my rainbow baby. My last two children are rainbow babies, and I am heading into that season where the kiddos are gonna be in school.

And so I am opening up some more spots for new one-on-one clients. If you’ve been waiting and wondering is coaching for me. I really wanna work with Amy. I love everything on the podcast, but I, I wanna implement it cuz I’m just not doing it on my own. This is for you. Come and talk to me. Come to a connection call.

I’ll tell you all about it and we will get you taken care of. I’m so, I don’t know, I love the summer. By the end of the school year, I’m ready for some, not schedule, but by the end of the summer, I’m ready for some schedule again and I’m, I’m really excited for this season. So that’s what I’ve got for you now today I was really thinking what.

Do my listeners need to hear? What would help them the most? What have I seen people struggling with that I could address, that I could help with? And I thought, you know what? We all just kind of need a bit of a pep talk. And so that’s what I’ve got for you. It’s gonna be short and sweet. I want you to keep this one in your back pocket.

Use it whenever you’re having a day. You know what I mean? Those days when you’re frustrated with yourself and everything feels really, really hard, or maybe you’re in the autumn of your cycle and everything feels extra hard and annoying, and you just wanna quit when people disappoint you or you feel really alone, or you just got some not awesome news, or maybe you just really, really, really, really miss your baby.

You get to insert your current struggle, my friend, and I hope that this pep talk will help you no matter what your struggle is. It’s gonna be like a universal pep talk today for all baby loss parents. You’ve still got this. Today’s episode is gonna help you feel better so you can do what you need to do.

Or maybe it’s just gonna help you stay on the couch and not be mean to yourself about it. Whatever you’re going through, I promise this is gonna help. What I wanna tell you is this. This isn’t going to last forever. It is not always going to be this hard. This is a question I see over and over and over, like, how do I do this?

How do I keep going when it hurts so much? And it’s just so hard and I just wanna give up. This isn’t gonna last forever. The thing about our emotions and our experiences is they never last. The good stuff doesn’t last either, right? It’s all just about living in the moment that you’re in. And so if you’re going through a really rough time right now, remember this is not going to last forever.

You are stronger than you think. Now I have a whole episode on what it means to be strong and my definition of it. I cannot remember the number. It’s way back at the beginning, where we redefine strength, but you are stronger than you think. I see people all the time doubting, doubting themselves, doubting what they can accomplish, doubting what they can handle.

Listen, You got this, like you are so much stronger than you think. And if you hate being called strong, I really want you to question that because why not embrace it? Just be like, yeah, I am strong. I hate that I need to be, or whatever it is. But you’re stronger than you think you can do, way more than you think you can.

Don’t forget that you are the best expert on you. I see so many people who are again, just doubting themselves and saying, I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how I’m gonna do this. I don’t know. Stop saying, I don’t know. You do know. You know what you want. You know what you need, and you know how to get it if you just listen to yourself.

So listen to yourself and trust yourself. It’s all gonna be all right in the end, and if it’s not all right, it’s not the end. I love this quote, honestly. Again, it kind of goes together with the, this isn’t gonna last forever. It’s gonna be all right. I think we add such an extra layer of pain when we are struggling and then we tell ourselves it’s always gonna be like this and it’s never gonna get better.

It’s gonna be all right in the end. I have a strong faith that maybe this earth life might be a struggle for you, but there’s also gonna be so many beautiful moments within that, and then someday we will get that rest that we’re looking for. But this is not the end. It’s not the end for you. Keep on going.

You are not alone. It can feel really, really lonely out there, but you’re not alone. You have more people that love you than you can even imagine. You have people on the other side. You have your baby or your babies, and maybe you don’t have the traditional family or friends that you see everywhere, but people do care about you.

You are not alone, and no matter what. You can always reach out to me. If you’re struggling to get going and you’re feeling like you’re just procrastinating or you’re emotional, you’re just like all over the place. This is what summer does. We have all these great plans, and then we end up just not accomplishing a lot of them, or you’re just buried in grief.

Just take one easy, doable step. We’re gonna break it down to the smallest. Easiest Next thing that we can do, if the big picture is overwhelming, if the future is overwhelming, if looking at the whole rest of your life is overwhelming, then stop doing that. Take one easy, doable step towards what you want, and if you have a big, incredible goal that you wanna accomplish, the advice is the same.

You just keep taking little doable steps, and you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish. Someone out there needs you. When we get focused on ourselves and our grief and our struggles and all the things that we’re worried about,

it’s easy to feel down. When we look outside of ourselves and we think about others and we think someone out there needs me, it could be one person. It could be someone in your own home. It could be your partner, your children, someone that you know and love. It could be a stranger, 

 It really could be anyone, but someone needs you. You don’t have to help the whole world. It’s that story of the man who’s throwing the starfish back into the ocean. It matters to one, serve the people, help the people think about others. There’s something magical that comes from serving others.

Serve. Service is a huge part of my healing. It still is. It brings so much joy and purpose and when you’re really down and focused on ourselves, If we can get outside of ourselves and think about others, we’re just gonna feel better. And sometimes we just feel so much better than even the people that we serve.

You are magic. You are light, you are so very loved, and you matter. And I’m not a liar. I wouldn’t say this if I didn’t mean it, and I’m speaking directly to you. You are magic, you are light, you are loved, and you matter. Your baby matters no matter who acknowledges them,

but you matter. And I’m so glad you’re here, and I hope that this little pep talk will help you on the hard days. And when you really need something to help you get going, I want you to remember if you’re going through a struggle, this isn’t gonna last forever. You’re stronger than you think You are the best expert on you.

And it’s all gonna be all right in the end cuz you’re not alone. All you need to do is take one easy, doable step, and then share your heart and serve. I can’t wait to see what you do when you’re feeling a little bit better. I’m always here for you. You can find or on Instagram, Amy dot Smooth Stones Coaching.

If you DM me, I will answer you. It’s just me over there answering those questions and helping you as much as I can. I hope you have just a magical day and you feel the big warm hug that I’m sending to you right now. I’ll see you next time. 

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