What is faith?
Faith is believing in something that we can’t see.
A belief is something we think over and over.
What do you believe?
What do you have faith in?
I recently saw a few friends posting how they aren’t really religious, but they like believing that their babies are angels.
That is a perfect example of how we can choose our beliefs.
Did you know you can choose?
I am a religious person. I love being a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. My beliefs give me direction and bring a lot of peace. But even within a religious group, there are many interpretations. Each person’s life experience and way they look at things will be a little bit different.
And that’s ok.
We are all here to learn.
I want you to look at some of your beliefs surrounding the death of your baby.
Write them down. It’s powerful to see them on paper. Just let it all go.
Now ask yourself which thoughts are serving you.
Which ones are not serving you?
Once you have these picked out just start noticing them. How often do they cross your mind?
How are they affecting your emotions?
One I see people wrestle with quite often is the thought “why did God take my baby?”
That is a loaded question. And it assumes God did this to you. And our brain thinks that if we could just answer this question somehow we would get relief. Right?
If I had a crystal ball and could tell you all the answers.
I don’t. But you have yourself. And you can find your own answers.
So if you have any thoughts you find aren’t serving you I want you to know that you can let them go.
The ones where God has abandoned you.
The ones where you blame yourself.
The ones where you made the wrong decision.
The ones where there was a mistake.
The ones that add extra pain on top of missing your baby.
Our brains want to tell us someone is to blame. But no one has to be.
Our brains think we have to hang on to the pain. But you don’t.
You can believe whatever you want. It may take time. But you keep reminding yourself that you are in control now.
You couldn’t control what happened. It’s in the past now.
But you can control your experience today. And in the future.
You’ll know when you are ready.
Much love, mommas.